The Problem with “Mental Age”

One unfortunate way that you'll often see people with developmental disabilities, including autistic people, described is with the concept of mental age. "Oh, they're a ten year old in the body of a twenty-one year old." "My daughter's eleven, but functions as a six year old." "My cousin's legally an adult but is mentally four." … Continue reading The Problem with “Mental Age”

How to make the Holiday Season Less Stressful for Autistic People

"It's the most wonderful time of the yearWith the kids jingle bellingAnd everyone telling you be of good cheerIt's the most wonderful time of the year" Well, at least for some people. The "most wonderful time of the year" isn't wonderful and magical for everybody. For autistic people especially, the holidays can drive much more … Continue reading How to make the Holiday Season Less Stressful for Autistic People

Autistic Play is Appropriate Play

“Does your child play appropriately with their toys?” Apparently, this is a common question asked of parents if their kid is being assessed for autism. In this context playing “appropriately” means “playing with toys exactly as a neurotypical child would play with their toys.” That, and it is often pushed very hard for parents to … Continue reading Autistic Play is Appropriate Play

Why I can’t remember your name as an autistic person.

"What's my name, Quincy?" ... "Come on, we're in the same English class, how can you not know who I am?" This has become a common interaction for me at school recently, ever since it became widespread knowledge that "Quincy can't remember anyone's name." I get stopped a lot with people asking me the same … Continue reading Why I can’t remember your name as an autistic person.